Paul Falcone: Founder, Author, Editor-in-Chief
I’m Paul Falcone, a 22 year old college senior who lives in Massachusetts. I’ve been fighting depression, anxiety, and insomnia since I was 13 years old. It’s not easy, nor has it ever been. But I’ve become stronger over the years and every day like to think that I grow closer to accepting who I am with this illness. What began as a class project in early 2015 quickly gained momentum and a following that blossomed into a community of people wanting to share and educate anyone willing to listen about mental health and illness. My mission has become to create a community where people can share stories of hope or pain, triumph or failure, fiction or reality, or anything that relates to any kind of mental illness or struggle. Because the biggest thing to remember is that you are not alone.
And you are loved.
Apart from running this blog I’m a college student, musician, writer, and photographer. Occasionally I’ll post some of my work on here, and you can find the two albums I’ve recorded in the music tab. Almost all my work is directly related to my depression in some way. Although there are other happier topics I do come across every once in a while.
Think I’m interesting? Follow me on twitter: @PaulFalcone_
Want the long version of my story? Read my entry in the Coping series.
Want to see my photo project depicting the internal struggle of mental illnesses externally? Check out the “Consumed: Mental Illness Through Photography” series.
Danny Kochanowski: Assistant Editor, Author
Hi, my name is Danny. My journey has been one full of self-doubt and loathing, breaking points, anger, sadness, and a whole lot of numbness.For so long, the way that those around me talked to me, and the way I talked to myself, left me feeling inadequate, expendable, and worthless. I’ve held countless knives and piles of pills in my hands, thinking daily about what it would be like to not experience conscious thought anymore.
Through high school and college, I finally began to recognize that I was not healthy. My first form of treatment, as is for many, was a chemically-based model where I was told that I had a disorder and an imbalance. I’ve gone through so many meds and therapists, many of which have done more harm than good.
I’ve worked as a Peer Advocate and Community Bridger for the Western MA Recovery Learning Communities. In the peer model (as opposed to our current clinical model), I have found the empathy, compassion, and open-mindedness that the mental health system lacks. The wonderful people that I have met and I look to put the humanity back into the forever-overlapping process of struggle, recovery, and living a full life.
At Dear Hope, you’ll find a profound community of individuals that grows daily. The people we continue to meet in this space constantly challenge us to change the way we view the world through placing us in their shoes. Struggle is real, and struggle is okay. If you’re ever doubting this, we are here for you, in whatever way you need it. You deserve it, whether or not you are ready to believe that.
Peace and love,
Alaina Leary: Author, Editor, Content Producer
My name is Alaina Leary, a 22-year-old Boston native studying in a Publishing and Writing graduate program at Emerson College. I’m also currently a magazine editor and writer for several different publications. My goal is to become an editor at a book publisher or a female-positive print or online magazine. When I’m not busy playing around with words, I spend my time surrounded by my girlfriend, our two literary cats Blue Gansey, or at the beach. I can often be found re-reading my favorite books and covering everything in glitter.
In my freshman year of college, I was raped in a campus dorm room. Since then, a large part of my life has been about advocating on topics of consent, rape, sexual assault, rape culture, and safe sex. I volunteered as a SafeSite for the American Condom Campaign for three years and distributed condoms and safe sex information to college students. Surviving rape changed my life, but it also showed me that there is reason to live even when you may think there isn’t. I hope to use writing and publishing to show others that they aren’t alone – that we all go through difficulties, but that we can come out of the other side stronger.
No matter what you’re struggling with, you are never alone.
Amanda Canale: Social Media Manager
I’m Amanda, a 22-year old senior in college studying Communication and Women’s Studies who has been struggling with depression, anxiety, and self-doubt for as long as I can remember.
In high school I struggled with suicidal thoughts, and over the years have taken drastic measures in order to try to lose weight. For a large part of my life, I have felt that I was unworthy; of love, acceptance from others, self-acceptance, success, and other things. It wasn’t until college where I discovered that there are others like me – people who find it hard to get out of bed in the morning, who find it hard to be happy, and who are also fighting inner demons. I learned that I was not alone.
Through research and connecting with people who not only understood my struggles, but supported, loved, and accepted me as well, I’ve been on the path to loving myself. I have had my trying moments and rough patches, but I am proud to say that I am nowhere near where I used to be.
I cannot thank my support system enough for constantly pointing me (and occasionally, dragging) me in the right direction, and always reminding me that I am loved and worthy. I still have my moments, but I know that they will not last. I know my worth. I know that I have a place on this earth and that I deserve to stay. And I know you do, too.
Follow me on Twitter @mandaax125